Because Great Marriages Don’t Just Happen
How do you know if your ready for marriage? How do you know if the person you are dating is Mr. or Mrs. right? Premarital coaching/counseling is a great place to help answer those questions and/or prepare yourselves for the wonderful journey of marriage!
Premarital coaching and counseling is designed for couples who are engaged to be married, or who are dating and considering marriage together. This process will help you better understand your families of origin and how your upbringings may affect the patterns, habits, values and understandings you both bring to marriage. It will also explore and discuss common responsibilities that come with marriage, such as finances, in-laws, communication, gender roles, expectations and faith. In this process you will reflect on and affirm your understanding of marriage, as well as your dreams, needs and expectations of one another in a safe and positive format.
Premarital coaching is not a test or a requirement for marriage, but rather an opportunity and an invaluable tool to better understand yourselves, each other, and your relationship and future together. The process involves a questionnaire that each person fills out separately in advance, after which 3 sessions of 90 minutes each are scheduled. Premarital coaching can be done in person, or long distance by phone or Skype.
Contact Nick for further information or to begin the process.
3 Sessions – 90 minutes each
- Additional premarital coaching sessions
- Planning your ceremony
- Have Nick officiate your wedding ceremony
Questions About Premarital Coaching
The majority of clients find that 4-8 coaching sessions is most effective for initiating lasting change, or to reach a goal. Some clients receive coaching for 3-6 months for long-term transitions and goals, while others find just one or two sessions are helpful for short-term needs. Depending on the client’s goals, it is helpful to allow enough time for the implementation of the changes and tasks determined. Accountability and support increases the chances of completion and adherence to your desired changes and new habits. While every client’s situation is unique, Nick highly recommends and often requires a commitment from the client of at least 4 sessions, meeting weekly or every other week.
Any couple that is engaged, or who is seriously considering engagement should consider premarital counseling. Premarital counseling sounds a little technical and intimidating, but really it’s a very casual and effective opportunity to gain a better understanding of yourself and your spouse, and to be better equipped and prepared to begin the wonderful yet challenging journey of marriage. Couples fill out intake questionnaires, which offer the basis of discussion and counseling for the three sessions. Many churches require premarital counseling to be married in their church, and often times your sessions with Nick will fulfill that requirement. Many pastors welcome the specialized help as they have their own heavy workloads.
Coaching sessions by phone are very common, even among local clients who would prefer to save time and gas to drive to an appointment. Coaching sessions by phone have the option of being held in the early morning or evening when you are home. While face-to-face coaching provides an ideal format for communication between the coach and the client, coaching by phone is still a very effective format, and can even allow for greater focus and listening.
If you do coach by phone, it is recommended that you find a place where you will not be distracted for the entire hour (no kids, no TV, no computer on, etc.). Some clients have used Skype effectively, but many times the audio is sub-par and the video can be distracting. If you have questions about which format would be best for you, feel free to discuss this during your free consultation.
Take a moment to complete our short survey which which will identify what areas of coaching you’re interested in. Once I receive it, I will be in touch by phone or email to set up your free 45-minute consultation.
After this, a formal coaching agreement can be entered. You will then be sent via email the initial intake documents, a simple questionnaire that will help us focus the first session and get you started on the path to reaching your goals.
Payments are required up front, and coaching packages of 4 or 8 sessions can be purchased for a small discount. You may be interested in signing up to receive the free monthly newsletter that will help you get more familiar with me and the coaching services I provides.